On this blog, we tend to operate under the assumption that your marriage is mostly fine. Maybe not spectacular, but doing okay. We presume you read this blog because it makes you feel not-alone in the little niggling thoughts about your relationships, or because it holds you accountable to a higher standard, or because you more »
Archive for the ‘Divorce’ Category
Love, Light, Strength (and Glue): When the Bonds of Marriage are Tested. Really Tested.
Posted in Divorce, Fighting, Happiness on May 14, 2013 | Leave a Comment »
An Eighth Reason to Seek Marriage Counseling
Posted in Advice & Tips, Divorce, Fighting, Happiness on April 16, 2012 | Leave a Comment »
PsychCentral just ran a great article – Seven Reasons to Seek Marriage Counseling. You can find much more detailed content on their website, but here’s a high level summary of their reasons: 1. Communication has become negative. 2. When one or both partners consider having an affair, or one partner has had an affair. 3. more »
Seven Year Itch Letters: How China is Fighting High Divorce Rates
Posted in Divorce, tagged Seven year itch on October 12, 2011 | Leave a Comment »
A few weeks ago I mentioned Mexico City’s proposed attempt to lower divorce rates: set an expiration date for all new marriages. (Here’s my post about the proposal, and here’s a link to Colbert’s “wag of the finger” to Mexico City.) So now China is weighing in with their own attempt at lowering the divorce more »
Mexico City Considers Setting a Two Year Expiration Date for Marriages
Posted in Divorce on October 3, 2011 | Leave a Comment »
Mexico City lawmakers have proposed a change to the city’s civil code to set a two year expiration date to new marriages. As Reuters put it, “‘Til 2013 do us part.”The idea is to help couples avoid the heartbreak of a lengthy divorce process by building separation into the marriage contract: The minimum marriage contract more »
Survival and Second Marriages
Posted in Communication, Divorce on September 28, 2011 | Leave a Comment »
Cliff and I have often written about how the divorce statistic you probably know (50%) probably doesn’t reflect your reality. (Read what we’ve said here and here.) Your actual odds of staying together are likely much, much better than 50%. But if you’re already on the other side of a bad first marriage – what more »
Working Women, Stay at Home Dads, and Divorce
Posted in Divorce, Parenting, Research, tagged Stay at home on July 25, 2011 | Leave a Comment »
When I was in college I spent a very long summer doing a temp job in a doctor’s office. One of the doctors, a cardiologist, was a woman. Her husband was a stay at home dad and part-time auto mechanic. With my small town up bringing, this struck me as odd. And statistically, it was: more »
Sorry, Arnold: You Picked the Wrong Decade to be Unfaithful
Posted in Divorce, tagged Infidelity; affairs on May 27, 2011 | 1 Comment »
Hollywood – both in the personal lives of its stars and in its movie scripts – would have us believe that monogamy is a bygone belief. Virtually any movie involving a wedding features at least one scene where the groom (or bride) laments drunkenly that he’s not sure (or she’s not sure) she can only more »
Doubt the Numbers: Headlines Tell the Wrong Story about Divorce Rates
Posted in Divorce, Research, tagged Making marriage work on May 25, 2011 | 4 Comments »
The latest US Census data came out recently and so newspapers are quick to remind us that the divorce rate still hovers around 50%. This is true, but only technically. If you really want to know your own risk of divorce, you have to dig a little deeper into the numbers. Here are two things more »
Revisionist History
Posted in Divorce, Fighting, tagged History; rewriting on May 10, 2011 | Leave a Comment »
Close your eyes and think back to how you and your partner met. How did it happen? What attracted you to him/her? What made you decide this was the person you wanted to marry? If you can do this with ease, your marriage is probably in good shape. People who are in troubled marriages often more »
Too Big to Fail: Thoughts on the Marriage of William and Kate
Posted in Divorce, tagged Royal; wedding on April 29, 2011 | 1 Comment »
I’ve managed to avoid most of the William and Kate craziness that has otherwise possessed the Internet for the last few days: I did not set my alarm for 3 a.m., and it was well after 8 this morning before I saw a picture of her (beautiful) dress. Just the same, I do have some more »


